Author Archives: lizburkholderFNP@yahoo.com
“If I don’t please people, I might die.”
“If I don’t please people, I might die.” That sounds extreme, but when we dig deep enough into people-pleasing patterns, often this is where we end up. This deep-seated belief is often completely unconscious. This means that the person is … Continue reading
Trauma Translated into Subconscious Beliefs & Behaviors
People often ask me why we would want to go back and process painful things from childhood that are already “in the past.” My answer is usually something along the lines of, “Because they are still showing up in our … Continue reading
10 Ways To Incorporate Consciousness and Healing Into Everyday Life
1. Breathe: Slowly, Deeply. Whenever you think about it. And especially whenever you feel any overwhelming emotions, or even when you feel zero emotions (numbness) or feel “paralyzed.” This brings you back into the present moment and back into your … Continue reading
Shallow Breathing and Breath-Holding are Trauma Responses
Shallow breathing and holding your breath are trauma responses. When you’ve experienced traumatic events, ways to live through them are to either breathe really shallow (which is a “fight or flight” sympathetic shock response) AND/OR to stop breathing and disconnect from … Continue reading
Relationship with Yourself
Your relationship with yourself is THE MOST important relationship you will ever have on this planet. That relationship is the basis for EVERY other relationship you will ever have: those with your significant other, with your family, with your children, with … Continue reading
Working “Harder” Can Actually Make Us LESS Productive: When Survival Mechanisms Become Detrimental
Today is Friday and I took the entire day off and I have NOTHING scheduled on my agenda. This is a day for ME and a day to do just whatever I choose to do or not do today. I … Continue reading
Is Anxiety Reversible? Anxiety Video #1
What is the victim triangle and am I in it? (Part 1)
One of the theoretical tools I use a lot in my private practice, and even in my own personal life, is the one of the “victim triangle.” What is the victim triangle you might ask? Well, let me tell you, … Continue reading